Wednesday, July 9, 2008
Random Thought to Theory (#1)
RANDOM THOUGHT...:
I am most tempted away from being intimate with a friend, girlfriend, God, etc., when I don't feel adequate for and/or accepted by that person.
Viz. reflect on the times in your life when you've seriously "dropped the ball" in a relationship and felt completely ashamed and wanting to hide. Recall a time when you've shared a quiet joy and/or deeply important thought/feeling of yours with someone you consider a close friend, your "significant other," etc., only to have it dismissed, ignored, or put down; you then feel less safe about sharing anything as intimate with that person again.
...TO THEORY:
The number one cause of infidelity in any relationship is insecurity/low self-esteem [in at least one area] in an individual's sense of identity/self-confidence.
Viz. consider the area(s) in your own heart that scream(s) or silently beg(s) for validation, acknowledgment, affirmation, approval, acceptance and ultimately - intimacy.
...What do you think about that?
...Would you agree?
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1 comment:
I think it's true that we long for intimacy and acceptance, that we look for it to be perfectly-fulfilled in imperfect places, and when our desire for acceptance isn't tempered by the Holy Spirit we'll even be unfaithful to get it (spiritual or physical infidelity). All that to say: yes, I agree. Good thoughts.
Glad to see you blogging again. Nice facelift on the home page too! I hope you'll be inspired to write more often because I really look forward to reading your "random thoughts."
Talk to you soon, bro.
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